In this video, we’ll show you 10 proven ways to get a cat to love you.
Let them make the first move
Cats are so adorable that people want to greet them with a big hug. Some people go up to the cat, corner them, and try to pet them to win them over. But remember, this is a common mistake for cat lovers. According to the recent studies, it’s best to let the cat make the first move. A study conducted in Switzerland has shown that when humans sit back and wait—and focus on something else, like reading a book—cats are more likely to approach.
This is why many kitties are attracted to allergic people—as people with allergies don’t really seek out to pet cats.
Pet them where they enjoy it most
How does your cat enjoy being pet?
A study conducted by the University of Lincoln i found that cats show more positive behavioral responses—like purring or kneading—when they are pet between the eyes and ears. And they display more negative responses—like hissing, swatting or swishing their tails—when they are pet around their tail area.
Yes, that’s right. Cats don’t actually enjoy being stroked at the base of their tail. Researchers believe that a cat’s tail area is an erogenous zone.
Check your scent
A cat's sense of smell is the main way they identify people and objects. Their sense of smell is 14 times better than that of humans. If a cat is afraid of you, make sure to check your scent as your cat might be staying clear of it.
You may have the scent of another cat or dog on your pants, or you may have strong smells like perfume, deodorizers, disinfectants, bleach, garlic or onions on your clothing. If your cat retreats when they sniff your hands, it may be because they don’t like the smell of your hand soap.
Approach them like a cat
Cats communicate primarily through scent and body language. Most felines greet each other with a nose-to-nose stiff.
And while humans shake hands, cats boop to say hello.
To increase your bond with a cat, try approaching them the way they would greet other felines. Mimic the nose-to-nose behavior by gently offering your non-threatening fingertip at their nose level. Your finger acts like a nose substitute and most cats will walk up and sniff or investigate your finger,
Mimic felines’ scents
Cats, on the other hand, don’t like new smells, and any unfamiliar scent can put them off.
And this is why most cats are not big fans of change, relocation, or strangers. As new environments bring a lot of new smells and signs that they have yet to explore.
If you don’t want to bring new smells to a cat’s home, you may spray yourself with a cat pheromone.
Pheromones are a type of chemical communication that all cats use to interact with each other and the environment around them. These “messages” are released from the scent glands around their body. you may want to spray yourself to calm a new cat.
Human interaction over food
A 2017 research conducted in the Oregon State University studied what attracts cats the most.
The scientists offered cats a choice between food, toys, scent, and social interaction with humans and watched what happens. Believe it or not, they found that most cats prefer social interaction with humans over everything else — even food. Interestingly enough, some recent studies suggest that what really attracts cats to humans is the presence of interactive toys.
Don’t block the exits.
If you appear as an imposing, enormous creature in their space, they may perceive you as a threat. Instead, get down and approach them at their level. And make sure not to block the exits.
Blink slowly, but never stare
Cats stare when they are hunting. Their ability to stare without regular blinking helps them keep a close eye on their prey. If you stare at them, you are giving them the same look they give when they hunt.
Instead, give them plenty of long, slow blinks. This shows the cat that you are relaxed and friendly, and you don’t want to hunt them.
Retreat at the right time
There are many signs that a cat doesn’t like your actions or feels uncomfortable around you.
Some signs are overt—like hissing and biting—but some are more subtle--like when they flatten their ears, or twitch their tails. If you get one of these signals, it’s time to back off.
Use Treats Strategically
You can encourage your cat to be near you with a yummy, stinky treat. This doesn’t mean showering them with treats all day long. Instead, use treats strategically to either reward good social interactions with you, or to entice a shy cat to walk towards you.
You can also try talking quietly to the cat as they eat the treats so they associate your voice with rewards.
And while a dog may wolf down any kind of dog food you bring them, a cat will not. Cats are not very food-motivated so you might have to search for a treat that they like.